Does Past Trauma or Sexual Abuse Cause the Desire to Be “Kinky”?

I have a long history of working with both proud participants in BDSM culture and victims of past trauma/sexual abuse and have often been asked if past abuse- especially in early childhood- “causes” one to become “kinky” or even “perverted” as an adult?  It has been my observation over the years that the BDSM community seems to be populated with more survivors of sexual trauma or abuse than their non-kinky counterparts.  Is this because past sexual-abuse causes one to become “kinky” or is it because participation in BDSM often fosters a deeper level of self-awareness, an acceptance or willingness to explore ones deeper emotions and motivations allowing them, as a population, to acknowledge and work through past abuse/trauma more readily?

Past sexual-abuse does not “cause” a person to be attracted to BDSM, fetishistic desires or other things we commonly call “kinky”.

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