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FIVE GREAT REASONS TO HIRE A LIFE COACH

FIVE GREAT REASONS TO HIRE A LIFE COACH

  • A life coach helps you deal with pressure and stress as you work to make important changes in your life.
  • Coaching can make you start asking the right questions. You’ll look beyond the self-limiting mindset that has been holding you back.
  • You can maintain motivation to improve your life. The life coach knows how to encourage you and will help hold you accountable for your actions.
  • With a life coach, you’ll learn to think about what you can do. This is much more powerful than thinking about what you can’t do.
  • Life coaching is a proven way to create a satisfying life. What you really want is inside you. And the coach will teach you how to listen to your heart and make the changes that will get you to your goals- big or small.

Does Past Trauma or Sexual Abuse Cause the Desire to Be “Kinky”?

I have a long history of working with both proud participants in BDSM culture and victims of past trauma/sexual abuse and have often been asked if past abuse- especially in early childhood- “causes” one to become “kinky” or even “perverted” as an adult?  It has been my observation over the years that the BDSM community seems to be populated with more survivors of sexual trauma or abuse than their non-kinky counterparts.  Is this because past sexual-abuse causes one to become “kinky” or is it because participation in BDSM often fosters a deeper level of self-awareness, an acceptance or willingness to explore ones deeper emotions and motivations allowing them, as a population, to acknowledge and work through past abuse/trauma more readily?

Past sexual-abuse does not “cause” a person to be attracted to BDSM, fetishistic desires or other things we commonly call “kinky”.

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Into the light: Personal Responsibility & Healing Past Trauma

Even though we may have been wounded by others, it was 
now our responsibility to heal past hurts.
Individuals suffering from 
complex post traumatic stress disorder with histories of chronic repeated trauma in 
their most formative years can become “children of the dark”, feeling contaminated, wandering through life searching for their soul. Going through the
 motions of living, yet feeling they don’t exist. Alienated from human connection, 
yet desperately seeking a place to rest. (more…)